I’m writing this from the past. I started this in the middle of July 2017, and have been piecing it together since.
When I started this, I was less than a month into my relationship with my boyfriend. But this is published a few days after my wedding. I know that sounds weird, that this far into a relationship, I write this post. But these are the things on my heart, and I hope they encourage someone.
Wait to fall in love with someone until you have found that person that makes your heart sing.
Wait for the person that doesn’t
simply complete you, but encourages you to be the best version of you.
Wait for the person that sets your heart on fire, and your soul ablaze.
Wait for the person that doesn’t provide you with red flags or warning signs.
Wait for the person that makes you feel safe and comfortable and wonderful, and wait for the relationship that feels natural and God blessed.
Wait for the person that fits you like a glove and satisfies your soul.
Wait for the person that shows up when you least expect, and encourages your sense of independence.
Wait for the person that respects your boundaries, and does everything they can to make them their own as well.
Wait for the person that is your partner in crime.
Wait for the person that prays for you without prompting, and wait for that person that puts God and family first.
Wait for the person that is more than anything you could have ever wished or dreamed for.
Wait for the person who desires intimacy with you. Not the kind of “ripping each other’s clothes off and seeing each other naked”, but the kind of intimacy that is crying with each other, with hearts exposed, and feeling safe. Wait for the person that wants your souls to be intimate, not just your bodies.
Wait for the person that wants to be your lover, not just of your body, but of your entire being.
Wait for the person that makes you feel like love is a slow burning ember, ever constant and ever warm.
Wait for the person that doesn’t need you, or to be in a relationship, to be happy. Wait for the person that is happy and content alone, but chooses you to add to their happiness.
Wait for the person that is your equal, and treats you as such.
Wait for the person that amazes you. Every. Single. Day.
Wait for the person that makes your future feel complete.
Wait for the person that doesn’t need to say “I love you”, to make you feel loved. Wait for the person that can show love in other ways.
Wait for the person that doesn’t always fill your heart with butterflies, but always touches your soul with peace and comfort and joy.
Wait for the person, that if you’ve had a crappy day, can just improve your mood in a few short hours, simply by being with them.
Wait for the person that is willing to work through hard things with you, because they want you, all your good and bad.
Wait for the person that isn’t afraid to be a bit sappy with you.
Wait for the person that makes your future feel just within reach, and that the separate futures you had each crafted for yourself while single, suddenly and beautifully meshes together into a joint future for both of you.
Wait for the person that encourages you to be your best, and do your best, in everything you do, be it academics, a career, or even passions.
Wait for the person that encourages and supports your religious beliefs, and even wants to strengthen the relationship the two of you have, through your shared religious beliefs.
Wait for the person that compliments you, as a Yin to a Yang. Wait for the person who’s very being affirms and supports your very being.
I wish I would have waited, and I wish I would have met him sooner. I wish I wouldn’t have had started dreaming about my future with other guys, and I wish I would have saved a larger portion of myself for him. I wish I would have waited, because my husband is better than the man I grew up dreaming about, and is the man I should have waited for.
Good partners still exist. But wait for them. Please.
Don’t spend your time chasing people who don’t satisfy your requirements, and don’t get in relationships just because you feel like the time is right. Wait.
Don’t cheapen the beauty of things to come by being impatient. Wait.
As I’m writing this, I have never dreamt about my wedding, or what it could be like to be married, this much. My boyfriend makes me want to say “I do”, and he makes me so impatient be married to him. He makes me dream of what it’ll be like to walk down the aisle and to see him standing there, knowing that just in a few short minutes, we will be man and wife. Goodness, I can’t wait.
Waiting is hard. Really hard. I know. But the longer the wait, the sweeter the taste, I promise you that. After my first relationship (which lasted almost two years), I had to wait just two months shy of the three year mark for my God-provided Prince Charming. I made mistakes in the interim, big mistakes that I’m horribly ashamed of. I got into relationships I shouldn’t have. I wish I would have waited.
Wait for your God-granted partner. And when the time comes, delight in them as your legitimate pleasure, and forever companion. God’s plan is beautiful, and so much grander and more beautiful than anything you could ever dream. Wait for His timing, please, because nothing is more beautiful than that which is blessed by God, and deemed good.