I hope you all had a beautiful Thanksgiving holiday! I always love this time of year. I mean, October through December is my favorite time of year, but Thanksgiving is like the catalyst to keep me at home, listen to Christmas music, snuggle up by the fire, and to deeply enjoy the people in my life. (Not to mention the fact that my birthday fell the day before Thanksgiving this year — yay for 22!)
For those of you that live outside of the United States, and/or choose to not celebrate Thanksgiving, I hope you had a wonderful past week, and that you had the chance to rest, relax, and appreciate the people and things in your life that make you happy.
I wanted to start this post happy, because I won’t be treading lightly. I’m ready to throw punches.
I’m tired of politics. I’m so tired of being belittled and ridiculed if I don’t agree with someone. This is not something new; I just always feel the need to reiterate.
I’m sick and tired of people making Thanksgiving political, and aiming to make people feel guilty for taking the time to be thankful for the things in their lives. Yes, I recognize that the history of Thanksgiving is unfortunate, and my heart breaks for the people that were mistreated or killed during those times. But stop making white people feel bad for things in the past. If you weren’t directly involved in it, and the white person you are talking to wasn’t directly involved in it, there is nothing either one of you can do to remedy a situation that happened hundreds of years ago. Also, name a country that didn’t attack the indigenous people of the land while colonizing. (I know this is a Wikipedia article, but it does a good job of highlighting all of the countries that were violent to the local peoples.)
I’m sick and tired of people making things political. There is a girl I follow on Instagram who I was in marching band with in high school. She is not yet eighteen, and yet she is still full of political statements and movements. During Thanksgiving, she posted an image that was intended to remind everyone how horrible the Native Americans were treated by the Pilgrims, and then declared that all holidays were created by the government anyway. *insert huge dramatic eye roll* Look, telling an American to not celebrate Thanksgiving because you don’t agree with it is like telling Germans to not celebrate Oktoberfest. And, if Thanksgiving is being boycotted because of historical reasons, is Christmas going to be boycotted for religious reasons? If you don’t want us to make you feel guilty about things, and not tell you what to do, then please, for all that is good and holy, stop making us feel guilty about things, and telling us what to do.
I’m tired of being made to feel like a wretched Christian because of my views on border control and the approaching South American caravan. Stop plastering Bible verses over pictures of people from South America making their way towards the United States. Plus, the more you do it, though it may be supportive to you, you are pushing me further and further from your cause, and making me less and less willing to hear your side of the conversation. Everyone has the right to express themselves in whatever way they so choose. I’m just trying to provide an outside perspective, especially of particular actions are targeted towards my group of people.
I’m tired of liberal ideology being thrust down my throat, or my friends’ throats. One of my maids of honor had a few not-okay situations happen at her college, where she was at the center of a group of students and teachers ganging up on her because she had different beliefs. I’m not going to go into details, as she just wants to put her head down and finish the semester. But this is not okay.
I’m tired of no one wanting to listen to my side of the story. I follow an organization on Instagram and YouTube that seeks to spread logical and rational viewpoints on hot button topics. Before Thanksgiving, two of the staff members visited a local college and were dressed as a pilgrim and Native American, in an attempt to talk to the students about Thanksgiving. They were chased off of campus, and the Native American headdress was ripped and destroyed, by a class, by a group of students. If liberal art schools are seeking to provide their students with the tools to engage with a wide variety of thoughts, beliefs, etc., I feel schools are failing at this. How many students, and professors at liberal art schools, are truly able to listen to an opposing world view, learn from it, and constructively engage in a conversation? When has open mindedness become “If you are on my side, I’ll listen to you. If you’re not, I won’t”?
I’m tired of being made to feel like less of a woman because I don’t support abortion. I am a woman, and I understand that women have the unique ability to create life. I also understand the consequences of having sex. Going into marriage, I know that there are ways for my husband and I to protect against having a child before we are ready. Please stop making me feel like less of a woman because of my choice. My heart breaks for those women in impossible situations, and I prey for the guidance for them to do what is right.
I’m tired of men being ignored. International Man’s Day came and went, and there was hardly anything anywhere on social media. If women want so badly to be recognized and celebrated (first of all, holy low self-esteem), they need to start recognizing men. This is the same from above, but if we continue to push people away, they are less likely to engage with us on our causes.
I’m tired of being placed on a pedestal because I am a woman, and I am tired of being made inferior because I am white. I want to be equal to everyone, and I am so tired of being placed above men because I am a woman, and I am tired of being placed below people of color because I am white, and I am tired of being ignored because I am a Christian.
Though not as prevalent now, I’m sick and tired of smear campaigns during elections. I am less likely to vote for the person funding the ad, and I’m less likely to vote for the candidate that was the subject of the ad.
I’m tired of seeing politics and controversial topics and images and statements every where I go. I know every one has the right to do whatever they want (read: express themselves in whatever way they choose), I’m just tired of it.
I guess though, at the end of the day, I can choose to stop engaging with all of this crap. I can choose to stop following people on Instagram that irritate me. I can choose to unfriend people on Facebook who attack my beliefs. I can choose to not think about politics, and I can stop engaging with society. But really, I just started voting and I’m still young; I have a lot more to learn about this world before the next election rolls around. It’s rather sad that I already feel so tired and worn-out and weary, with so much of my life left.
How do you guys stand on this? What are your thoughts?