What I’ve learned in 21 years.

Today is my 21st birthday. Whoop, whoop! I guess I’m officially an adult now, right?  It’s wild, isn’t it, this whole getting older thing?  Time moves way to fast, I think ….

When I turned 19, I posted a list of the things I had learned in those nineteen years on Facebook.  Looking back at that status now, I really resonate with the things I learned, and I felt inspired to create a list of the things I had learned in my now twenty-one years of life.  I think self-reflection is very important, as it helps me grow and learn and become a better person.

21 Things I’ve Learned in 21 Years

  1.  The older I get, the more I realize what it means, and how truly important it really is, to value yourself and to make yourself a priority.
  2. There is an insane power and determination that springs up from within when you realize your unique ability to achieve your goals and dreams (and to graduate from college).
  3. “When you’ve met the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, forever just cannot come soon enough.” – When Harry Met Sally
  4. Being an independent, internally motivated introvert living with a co-dependent, externally motivated introvert is a special kind of annoying.
  5. Religious beliefs, like political beliefs, are not meant to be stagnant for the entirety of one’s life.
  6. Impatience for the future has the possibility to cheapen the beauty of what’s to come.
  7. Being confronted with personal ignorance is incredibly uncomfortable, but extremely important.
  8. In terms of religion and personal spiritual growth, stagnation and comfort should be considered swear words.
  9. Superficiality is stupid, and accomplishes nothing; I appreciate and value genuineness, honesty, and the ability to engage in deep thoughts and conversations.
  10. It is perfectly okay for someone not to believe what I believe, and even vehemently disagree with me, but what matters most is how I respond.
  11. Someone who doesn’t care to listen to what I believe or think about a matter, isn’t worth my time or effort to defend myself against their accusations.
  12. I am a Christian because, apart from growing up in a religious home, no other religion satisfactorily answers the deepest questions I have about life and the universe. Also, I wouldn’t be a Christian if I didn’t believe it was right and true. However, it would be both ignorant and arrogant of me to assume that people that hold different religious beliefs than me, do not view their beliefs in the same way.
  13. Miscommunication (or failure to communicate) creates unnecessary stressful situations, especially when money is involved, and I’m learning that some people never understand this.
  14. It is so refreshing and rewarding to be dating after being single for quite some time.
  15. I am not powerful enough to mess up anything God has planned for me.
  16. Time will pass, but being impatient and constantly wishing for the future takes away from the power of the present.
  17. Creating, and holding to, expectations about things that are outside of your control is a foolish endeavor.
  18. No one, not even doctors, can understand your body like you do, and knowing what works best for you in terms of a healthy lifestyle is the best thing for you.
  19. God’s timing and plans are perfect, and when He decides the time is right for a blessing, His goodness will leave you amazed.
  20. There should be no shame in admitting something (like a situation, or a relationship, or, in my roommate’s case, a college class) simply isn’t working for you.
  21. In times of darkness and tragedy, one of the most powerful and calming things, is the reminder to “think of all the beauty left still around you and be happy“.



Ciao for now, and Happy Thanksgiving!


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